Team '76 : The Dating

If this is the first post in this series you happen upon, don’t forget to go back and read the first two parts of the Team ’76 series: The Intro | The Meeting

Our first date and our second date were a few weeks apart. Almost immediately after our first date I went on a weeklong trip to New York for a friends wedding. Paul and I continued to talk over FB messenger here and there and we texted on occasion as well although my service in NY was spotty. All this time in between seeing him again, I had this feeling that something was just different this time. I couldn’t quite put my finger on it and I still had a LOT to learn about this guy but something just felt….right. 

When I finally did get back to town, early that week we decided to meet up halfway between where he lived and where I lived on a Saturday afternoon. Saturday arrived and I was anxiously awaiting our date when Paul texted and told me about how he and Kyle (his 11 yr old son) were going fishing that day. I was so confused because his fishing plans seems to contradict our date plans. I tried to be subtle about reminding him, but I finally just had to ask him what was up. He had totally forgot!!

Now, before you think he is a terrible guy for forgetting about a date with me, I think this was an important lesson that I learned about him. Paul tends to be a little scatterbrained, but that doesn't mean that stuff is not important to him. To this day, he feels terrible about the fact that he forgot exactly when we were supposed to get together on that Saturday. He made it up to me quickly and we decided to meet the following day instead. 

Through our conversations we had realized that a favorite fast food place for both of us was Sonic despite the lack of Sonics in the Seattle area! There was one halfway in between our houses though so that is where we decided to meet. When I was getting ready to leave, he texted me and said “we are on our way.” I was confused. Who was “we”? Surely he wouldn't be bringing Kyle to meet me just yet right? Don’t people with kids wait for a long time to introduce them to people they are dating? I had no idea but either way, I was excited to see him again. 

When they pulled up my stomach turned. He had brought Kyle. Was I ready for this? What does this mean? Am I good with kids? What if this is the beginning of the end? What if Kyle hates me? 

My girl brain was on overload.

Kyle shook my hand and we sat at one of the outdoor tables. When Paul got up to order, Kyle followed him and then looked back at me and said, “What do you want? I'll take care of it. And by “I'll take care of it, I mean, my dad's buying.” I smiled and relaxed, ok this kid has a good sense of humor. We had a great time eating and chatting and Kyle and I talked about school and Paul and I caught each other trying not to look to long at each other. The whole ride home I felt so conflicted. I was really liking this guy, but also wanting to be cautious and not get hurt. 

Our third date was another few weeks away because it's just not all that easy to get together when one of you has a kid at home and we both had full time jobs AND lived 75 miles away from each other. We met up at Salmon Days festival near my house this time and then they both came over to my house afterward to meet my dogs. They both loved dogs and had a great time getting to know Guinness and Chloe. It was during this date that Paul asked me if I would go to his Annual Training Conference and ball with him at the end of the month. Kyle even seemed excited about me coming with them. This all seemed to be moving so fast but also felt really “right.” 

I did end up going to the ball and Paul and I shared an extremely romantic first kiss on the bridge at the Coeur d'Alene resort on October 30th almost two months to the day from our first date. At this point, we both knew that something really special was going although neither of us knew what exactly the future would hold! 

This is the first picture of the two of us. We were at the hotel where the training conference was held and we were sitting in the conference room waiting for it to start. This was "pre first kiss" stage. =) 

And here is a photo of the bridge where we shared our first kiss. It was quite the romantic experience for a couple of kids in their 30's! 

Next week we get to relive Paul popping the question! Don't miss it! 

Next up: The Question

Team '76 : The Meeting

If you are just seeing this, don’t forget to go back and read the first part of the Team ’76 series: The Intro. 

It was a sunny Friday afternoon in Bellevue, WA. I was working at T-Mobile and it must have been company spirit day or something because I was wearing a hot pink jacket. I remember my co-workers also wearing the company color that day and someone was around taking photos of various groups of people in their company colors. I don’t remember much of what happened that day at work, but I do remember being in a meeting with my boss and telling her that I would be leaving a little early that day to go and meet up with a guy that I had been talking to online. She knew that I had been online dating and we had laughed together a few times about some of my previous experiences. I saw that glimmer in her eye at the hint of something new and exciting in my life, but it just made me all the more nervous. I detested first dates. 

Although I am a relatively social and friendly person, I am an introvert by nature so meeting people for the first time is never something I generally look forward too. Once everything gets going and I’m “in it”, its OK, but the anticipation for the unknown does a number on my internal organs. Today was no exception. I had met at least 6 or 7 guys through online dating and none of those dates went exceptionally well. This guy Paul who I was meeting today seemed great though our FB messenger chats, but really knew what would happen? Maybe we would end up having nothing to talk about. Maybe our sense of humor wouldn’t be compatible. Maybe we would both be disappointed that something that seemed to be going good online wouldn't match up in person.

Maybe, maybe, maybe. 

Paul lived in Olympia, WA which was about 75 miles or so south of the Seattle area. He was going to be up in that area doing some training at a nearby installation so we decided it would be a perfect opportunity to meet. It was August 21st, almost two weeks to the day since we first started chatting online. We decided on Pike Place Market mostly because it is one of the most iconic locations in Seattle and there is just lots to do and see. I suggested meeting in front of the Hard Rock Cafe because it had just recently opened and it was relatively easy to find amongst the hustle and bustle of downtown Seattle. We were texting as I headed downtown and we both knew exactly when we had parked and were headed towards the Hard Rock. Talk about anticipation!

I got to the Cafe first and was waiting out front. Its on a busy street with lots of foot traffic so I was positive I would see him walking towards me way before he got anywhere near me. However, I couldn't look in all directions at once and I felt the tap on my shoulder before I ever saw him. I turned around with a smile and with my hand out to shake, but before I knew it, I was involved in a huge bear hug. I think I said something ridiculous like, “oh, ok this is what we are doing!” We laughed and chatted a little (about what, I have NO idea) and then headed to the market to look around. I distinctly remember walking a little bit behind him because of some people in the way and getting a nice look at his handsome broad shoulders. =)

We walked through the market and ended up sitting in the sun at Victor Steinbrueck Park at the edge of Pike Place. We laughed and joked about our phones because he had just gotten an iPhone and I worked at T-Mobile which at the time didn't carry the iPhone. Conversation flowed and it was apparent that we both felt pretty comfortable with each other despite the awkwardness of this being our first meeting. This was going much better than any other first date I had!

It was getting to around dinner time so we headed back to the market to find something to eat. Since we were in that “first date, don't want to offend the other person or seem to bossy stage” we couldn't settle on a place. We ended up at a restaurant that had outdoor seating that overlooked the market. Little did either of us know that it was a Bolivian restaurant and neither of us really understood what was on the menu but we also didn't know each other well enough to really mention it at the time. I think we both guessed at what we ordered and hoped for the best. 

It was at this point that Paul really opened up and told me a LOT about his past. Since I knew from his profile and from our chats that he had two children, I obviously already knew that he had probably been married before. He pretty much shared everything with me during dinner, no holds barred. He laughs now about how he had total verbal diarrhea and can’t believe I ever agreed to go on another date with him after that. I however, loved that he felt comfortable talking about it and that he wasn't trying to put on a show. He was authentic. It was refreshing. 

After dinner we still had a little time before he needed to head home, so we decided to go to REI. Now this might seem like a strange choice but at the time we were both relatively into biking (I had just done a triathlon a few weeks earlier and Paul loved to mountain bike.) He had never been to the flagship REI store and it was close by so we walked to his truck and he drove us over there. 

We got a little lost in the parking lot but finally made our way inside. We were looking at some of the bicycles and Paul was messing around with the gears on one of them and an associate came over and told him basically to cut it out. We both laughed about it despite that it could have been a potentially embarrassing thing to happen on a first date. We made our way back to the parking lot and he drove me back to my car. It was during this point that we discovered that we were both born in 1976, and he was a little over a month older than me. Through some conversation we discovered we both have a slight obsession with that year and he mentioned how he even referred to himself as “team 1976” (even though I'm not sure who else was on his team at the time.)  =) 

He dropped me off at my car and neither one of us really said anything about meeting again because, well, thats just a super awkward thing to do on your first date. You don't really have a sense of where the other person is at yet and it's scary to put it all out there, in person, that you might want to see them again. However, I was all smiles on my way home.

I remember texting a friend and saying, “oh no, this could be bad. I like him.” 

The first time I met Kyle and when we both “knew” is coming up next week! 

Next in the series: The Dating